Wednesday, January 12, 2011

Necessary Detox

I'm going to deviate from the topic of creativity for just a moment to discuss the necessity of a good detox. Nope, I'm not talking about downing wheat grass juice for three days, or a colon cleanse (yuck). I'm talking about taking a break (permanent or temporary) from the toxic people in your life.

Let's be honest, these people are everywhere. They might masquerade as a friend, relative or co-worker. These are the people who offer a negative, unnecessary running commentary on your life choices. And oh boy, do they come out in full force when you're undertaking a new venture. Whether you're pursuing a new hobby, trying to lose weight, opening a new business, or starting a new relationship, they have an opinion on all of it. If those comments leave you feeling drained, miserable or sick to your stomach, you know you have a problem. While I haven't seen a form of Pepto for toxic people, I know a regular detox works wonders.

Most of us know that having a support system is an essential component to success. We all need someone to act as our cheerleader, shoulder to cry on, and sounding board. Maybe that person is your best friend, your significant other, your parent, sibling, or neighbor. Take a moment to think of who fits that description and at the next possible opportunity, thank them.

In the meantime, create a detox that works for you. My method involves what I call a "clean sweep." I've begun systematically weeding out the toxic people from my life. Is it easy? Not at all, but these people drain you dry. It's not worth it, no matter who they are. Now, I recognize this won't work for everyone. If it helps, cut all contact. If that's too drastic, limit the time you spend with them as much as possible. They won't treat you like that if you don't allow them to. At the end of the day, you deserve someone who is willing and able to shine the light of inspiration in your life. Someone who will support your dreams and help you move forward.

The best thing about this detox? It doesn't involve drinking nasty green juice blends or a colon cleanse. It involves a lot of reflection, and taking a step toward a happier life. Clear out the people who may be holding you back. At the very least, they harm your self-confidence and undermine your self-worth. Don't you deserve better? I think so.

For the record, I'd like to thank three people who've inspired me, encouraged me and made me smile this week: Sara, Sarah and Travis. Your support means the world to me.


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